Controlling?

I have a bossy husband who treats me like a kid sometimes. I have called him out on it several times and he apologizes, but it's not getting better. Last night he came home stressed from work. I work full-time too and take care of his kids and the house. I was just as exhausted and stressed. He asked me

I have a bossy husband who treats me like a kid sometimes. I have called him out on it several times and he apologizes, but it's not getting better. Last night he came home stressed from work. I work full-time too and take care of his kids and the house. I was just as exhausted and stressed. He asked me what was for dinner and then continued to work. I ended up sitting down and watching a show on TV and he got all mad and said "I guess I'll go hang out in the other room because I'm not watching this junk" and then came back and changed the channel. When I got tired I kissed him and said I needed to go to bed and then he said some sarcastic remark like "well it was nice spending time with you". I went to bed and woke up to him saying "I love you very much" but then today he already sent me a text saying I was being distant. I really don't know what to do. I don't feel like he loves me at all. He makes a lot of money and I said he would rather have me drive 13 hours for an event than fly because he doesn't want to pay for the ticket. I just don't get it. What man would want their wife driving over flying when they can afford it? Unless he is trying to kill me.

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ahj:
Google:
1. National Clearinghouse on Maritial and Date Rape
2. National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
3. National Domestic Violence Advocate
4. Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network
5. Resource Center on Child Protection and Custody
6. Center for the Prevention of Sexual and Domestic Violence

There are other resources to assist women with hubby issues.

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woman up;;
Cyber Aristotle:
It's possible he's become used to the routine, and doesn't value the important things in life anymore. Looks like your husband is fixated on his own personal needs, and has forgotten to consider yours when making decisions.

On your part, it's important to make your husband feel welcome when he comes home. Obviously he was stressed from work. You should have left what you were doing and pamper him for about 5mins. That sort of approach works wonders, and makes a man feel special too.

With regards to the money issues, discuss your needs with him. He cannot read your mind, despite having money to spend. Most men want to be prudent with money but end up being miserly and tight-fisted. Share your concerns with him whenever you have a need. I'm sure he'll provide for you if you ask him politely.

I hope this helps.
Good luck!

melloyello:
Idk about controlling. More like very selfish which is turning into controlling.

With him saying he loves you the way he did, then saying you're being distant, it sounds like he realizes what he's doing, feels kinda bad, & is afraid you're gonna start hating him. He's probably having trouble trying to stop putting himself first.

With the tv, sounds like he wanted to spend time with you. Maybe expected you to compromise, watch a show that you'd both watch? Which is great, but you deserve your me time. Watch what you like even if he doesn't like it. Especially if there's more than one tv. he should have respected that. It's even worse if he changed it to something he knows you don't like.

You don't always have to spend time together every chance y'all get. & there are times y'all should comprise in favor of the other person if you want to spend time with them. As in watch their show even if you don't like it.

He was being very passive aggressive. Obviously.

hea:
Sounds like you need to have a talk with your husband and express to him how you are feeling. You both should be equal partners; not one overpowering or being controlling of the other one. Good luck
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Therapy

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